The pain of homesickness. Migratory grief.
Today, many of us, driven by aspiration or necessity, leave our homeland, roots, family, people, and traditions. This significant change in life, whether by choice or circumstance, is marked by a phenomenon known as ‘migratory grief.’ It’s a complex, recurring, and multifaceted struggle. It’s complex because it’s not a complete loss. It is recurring because every journey or photo on Instagram can trigger a flood of memories. It is multiple because it is not just one thing that is lost, but often many: family and friends, social standing, familiar landscapes, language, cultural norms, and a sense of belonging.
So far, these are situations that we live in when we experience any loss: we have to get used to living without what we once had and adapt to the new situation. In other words, we have to grieve.
The Ulysses Syndrome
But sometimes, as in Ulysses’ journey, we face situations that make it difficult to grieve: forced loneliness, failure to achieve our emigration objectives, lack of work or shelter, rejection, etc.
It is then that this intense picture of stress in extreme situations can appear. We often suffer from a variety of chronic problems, such as migraines, insomnia, fatigue, and gastric issues. States of sadness, anxiety, and anger may appear.
When this discomfort becomes permanent and prevents us from going about our lives, it is crucial to recognize the signs and seek help if necessary. Understanding and addressing Ulysses Syndrome is an essential step towards reclaiming our mental health and well-being. Remember, seeking help is not a sign of weakness, but a proactive step towards healing.
Homesickness.
During this long journey, Ulysses is determined to return home to his identity and reunite with Penelope, her son, and his world.
But what should we do when we don’t feel at home where we are now living and no longer consider our home country our home?
Perhaps the challenge is constructing a new ‘home’ with whatever renewed meaning we give this word. It is a creative process that will offer us new harmony and self-affirmation. Remember, ‘home’ is not just a place, but a feeling we can create within ourselves and our surroundings.